November 27, 2013

As Life So Good

 "How do you deal with negativity?" Yes, I'd like to bring up that topic today, please. :)
But before that, please bear with my kinda very unrelated outfit post first~ (ノ^ヮ^)ノ*:・゚✧

GOWIGASA DOPE MCMLXXXV SnapbackBnW Striped Turtleneck TopBaggy Semi Elastic Denim Shorts, Black Slim Backpack | TLTSN Red Mary Jane Flats

Let's continue talking about the topic I mentioned up there: "How do you deal with negativity?". Two days ago, I posted these tweets:
English loose translation

perhatian: caring
kepo (from singapore slang 'kaypoh'): busybody / meddling
ga kepo: aloof / does not like being a busybody / meddling with other people's business
sombong: arrogant / snob
berkualitas: have a certain standard of quality
mahal: expensive
murah: cheap
English loose translation

banyak temen: have a lot of friends
ansos: anti social / introvert by nature
dimusuhin: banished / alienated
tegas: bold
batu: stubborn
ngalah: pacifist / phlegmatic
Got the idea yet? Yep, it's about how negativity loves screwing with people's brain and turning plain X into (-)X. Well, even though I've posted the answer too up there, which is pretty obvious: Just Be Positive; I'd still like to dig furthermore into this matter.

Nowadays, with the help of internet and various social media platforms like Twitter, Youtube, Facebook, Instagram, Blog, etc.. we have the privilege of getting a whole lot more information about something (or maybe even get 'exposed' to the ones we don't actually need) AND we also get a lot more chances to express our opinions about those things. 

Now, if you're reading my blog right now, I assume that you're not new to this cyber world and that most of you netizens must be pretty familiar with these terms already: cyberbullying / public thrashing or attacks, hate accounts, spamming abusive comments, etc. Well, for you newbies, they're all about humiliating / defaming / harassing / intimidating / harming people (individually or as a group) or companies online. Believe it or not, most of the cases are:
- Unprovoked
- Done anonymously
- Simply based on negative thoughts or intentions about that person / group / business

So, why cyberbully? While for some people it might be entertaining, others do it for revenge, sabotaging competitions or simply for seeking attention. Whatever their motives are, they do not care about the damage they're doing to the victims (some even INTEND for the damage to happen). And when it comes to cyberbullying, they can simply run and hide after doing the bullying and not dealing with the damages afterwards, by being an anonymous. Easy? Yes. Classy? Not at all.

I fought a lot when I was a kid and every now and then, I deal with negativity online and offline. But I NEVER fight unprovoked (never accept being bullied either, though) / judge people relentlessly / spread lies or bad rumours about someone or something (sometimes I wonder about people who buy and read gossip tabloids. Do they do it to make them feel good about themselves? If so, I feel bad for them) / talk badly about someone or something or intentionally hurt other people or their businesses (heck, I don't even have the interest to at least care about most of them and besides, I choose my words carefully. If I don't have anything nice to say about someone or something, I'd prefer to be silent. Unless it's for positive outcome, e.g. telling a best friend that her boyfriend cheated on her, telling your interior designer that it is an ugly wallpaper for your dream house, telling your readers to be careful of a marketing company that disguises their profit with charity. Other than that, I really don't see the point of mocking other people or their businesses out of nowhere, especially when I'm a firm believer of karma) / or above all, choose anonymity online. The last point irritates me the most. Sometimes, I wish I could put my hand through the screen and grab those anonymous cowards by the collar, saying, "Say it to my face. I DARE YOU."
Back to the topic. Being through some fights (verbally and physically), I can honestly say that even when I won, the victory never taste as good as doing something positive. Not even close.

By 'doing something positive', I'm not saying that you should all immediately go helping people, do charity or join a volunteer trip (although they must feel really good, yo). It could be as simple as: 
Avoiding the negativity and keep being positive all the time.
As simple as it sounds, it's actually a hard thing to do, as human as we all are. I myself still doing my best to keep it up. But it really is  the right way to go.

Look, there are some things that may cause people to resort to negativity. If the source of the negativity is certain people around you (e.g. gossipy / sarcastic / malicious / discouraging / toxic people, etc.) and you have done everything you can to make them change for the better but it doesn't work out, you should really consider to cut them out of your life, IF you want to move forward, of course.
 But mostly (and sadly), negativity comes within yourself and one thing that might lead people to drag each other down is none other than ENVY. I deal with envy all the time. I envy kids whom parents are meant for each other, girls with easy-to-maintain skin, filthy rich kids who don't have to work, etc.
Can you imagine how I'd be doing right now if I kept concentrating my energy on envying those people? I might become one of those pathetic losers who keep whining and pitying myself or worse, one of those bitter sarcastic people who curse others for what they have instead of pushing myself to do better and better and getting to where I am today.

I might not be blessed with parents who are destined for each other, but I do learn a lot from their relationship since I was a kid: what to find and what to avoid in a partner later when I grow up, keys for a successful relationship, how to keep it logical while still maintaining the magical lovey dovey things, etc.

I might have a hard-to-please skin, but that makes me learn a lot about skincare, treatments, safe makeup products, healthy food and habits that turns out to not only giving temporary solutions to my skin problems, but also benefiting my skin in the long run.

I might not be an heiress of something big nor do I have a trust fund to live off*, but I do love making money, I am blessed with jobs that I love and I feel truly blessed and honored to have the opportunity to be the backbone of my family at a pretty young age, together with my beloved sister.
*FYI, Gandhi even said that 'wealth without work' is considered a social sin. ^^;

Alright then, I hope this post can somehow benefit you. :)
As life so good, my answer to the question, "How do you deal with negativity?" is #JustBePositive! :) What's yours? Have you got an issue with negativity before? Kindly tell me "How do you deal with negativity?" in the comment box below, I'd love to read it! :D

Nevertheless, thank you so much for reading and see you guys on my next post~

Jessica Yamada

November 25, 2013

Fresh Florals

What I Wore: GOWIGASA Sweetheart Fit n Flare Floral Dress and Cream Cozy Back Detail Knit Sweater (click for direct link) | ZARA Brown Knit Beanie | White Olga Deandri Shoes

Hi guys! I'm blogging this while hanging out with Jess and Stella Lee at Locale Diner (PIK) hehe, finally reunited with Stella yayy!! Gonna blog about it soon! We took so many pictures today haha xD
Well, I guess I have to get back to them because they're talking about something juicy kkkkk.

Thank you for reading and see you on my next post! :)

X O X O,
Elle Yamada

November 17, 2013

4 Ways to Wear a Bow in Your Hair

 4 Ways to Wear a Bow in Your Hair 
Love love love how a single ribbon / bow could easily revamp your girly look! I used bow hair clips for this tutorial. You can also replace them with tied-on ribbons if you want to. ^^

Top: Oopsy Daisy Knit Sweater Baby Blue by GOWIGASA
1. Take your front hair to the side (left or right, whichever side you prefer), but don't pull it too tightly, we want to let it loose to create a bit of volumized look. Then tie it up or clip it with a bobby pin (mine was pretty thick, so I tied it up) and clip in the bow.
P.S. If your front hair is not long enough (you have bangs instead) you can use the side of your hair to create this look, then blow dry your bangs.

Top: Palm Tree Off Shoulder Crop Top by GOWIGASA
2. Take all your hair to the side of the head, bring it to the front (you can choose to cover your ear / not. I chose to cover it hehe), braid it into this simple braid, then clip in the bow. Style the leftover hair on the other side whichever way you want. I chose to clip on some of my too-long bangs to the side with a bobby pin, and let the rest fall down like this.
P.S. If your hair is not long enough, you can opt for a side ponytail instead of a side braid.

Top: Bolts Sleeveless Crop Top by GOWIGASA
3. Take some of the front section of your hair, pulling it backward loosely (again, we want it to appear a bit volumized). Tie it with a hair tie and clip in the bow.
P.S. If the bow won't 'stand up' (like mine did), you need to clip on some bobby pins below the bow to 'tuck' it up.

Top: Tiny Daisy Denim Shirt by GOWIGASA
4. Take all your hair up, make a messy hair bun, then clip in the bow right on top of the bun.
P.S. You can brush it all up (including the front section / the bangs), or leave it side parted like mine. Both ways are cute to me! ^^

All tops are GOWIGASA's New Arrivals that will launch this Monday, 18 November 2013 at (ી(≧∇≦)ʃ)*:・✧

Thank you for reading and see you on my next post! 

Jessica Yamada

November 09, 2013

Haji Lane, Singapore

Haji Lane, the place where you should visit if you're sick of the malls.
It's basically a little street off the main Bugis area, with many lovely shops that sell everything from clothes to bicycle. You can find lots of quirky items with a reasonable price here.
There is also a few cafes if you just want to sit down, have a cup of coffee, and chat with your friends. :)

I love the minimalist packaging design! 

After several hours of walking, we decided to stop by this cafe/bar to rest our feet before we headed off to more sightseeing. 

These chairs ↑ may look tall in the photo, but it's a set of short-legged chairs in real life. Cuteee!!

Let's go upstairs! 

Such a great place to chill out with a few friends, huh? Great service, excellent ambience. Too bad I didn't try their food so I have no idea how it tastes like. But I ordered their lemonade and it was good! :D

One of the reasons I visited this place was to take outfit shots in front of the wall art lol.

What I Wore: Top from Bangkok | Trench Coat from Japan | GOWIGASA Cream HW Skirt | Amble Footwear Shoes | H&M Brown Sling Bag

Well, I think this post didn't do justice to the place. I should've brought my DSLR or at least snapped more pictures!! The vintage dresses, the artsy interior design of each store, etc etc.
I guess I got too caught up in the moment. /sob

Anyway, if you want to visit Haji Lane, do so after 4pm. I heard from the taxi driver that the crowds come in around 5pm, thus most of the stores open around that time too. We reached there at 2pm and most of the stores were still closed during the hours we visited. When the taxi driver told us, I was like, "Ahhh that's why T___T"

But, if you want to take decent pictures then you should come at 2pm like I did! :D
When it's still bright and you will have less people staring at you, or worse, waiting for you to finish your "photo shoot session" with annoying face because they also want to take pictures of themselves! At your spot! And so you end up looking awkward or uncomfortable in your photos. #storyofmylife

X O X O,
Elle Yamada